A separation from marriage can be an excruciating experience, almost similar to losing someone. At this stage of life when you are detaching from your ex-partner, you often go through a mourning process. The pain is the same as in the death of a loved one except for some unique attributes of the phase.
Divorce counselors are often found to be of great help to aid you in the transit process of the emotional turmoil that you may go through. They help assure you that the feelings you have are completely natural and normal. Above all, they prepare you for the imminent divorce that is on the cards, navigate through it, and move on after that stage of life.
Some people opt to seek psychic help to understand what went wrong. A psychic reader is often found to help immensely in the healing process by helping you decode the meaning of the various signs and their significance in what’s happening in your life.
You can find a list of psychics online to shortlist one of your likings. However, it is no news that there are many scammers out there, which makes choosing reliable psychics a daunting task. One way to find the genuine ones is to go through psychic source reviews on trusted websites so you know which ones you can trust.
Irrespective of the help you get to deal with your divorce, there are certain emotions you have to overcome if you want to heal yourself. These are some of those emotions you may find lingering in your mind.
The initial stage of every emotional turmoil is denial. You try to do all those activities that you normally do to get back to your usual life. At times, it may also happen that you start ignoring the fact completely that you are going through a divorce.
In this stage of denial, people generally refuse to accept the things that are happening in their life. They try their best to ignore the situation and attempt to keep themselves occupied in other things so as not to get any thoughts about what is happening in their life. It is their way to deal with the shocking incident by choosing to be numb.
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Uncertainty and Pain
The next stage that is common after the denial stage is to face the pain and the uncertainty. As soon as you move past the denial stage, reality catches up with you.
The experience of pain is excruciating, and you start to ponder over your marriage and what went wrong with it. It is worse if you were not the one to initiate the process of divorce. If this is also true for you, then you may start feeling rejected and hurt at this stage.
The thoughts about the uncertainty that lies in the future are also unnerving as they add up to make you feel anxious and depressed.
At this stage, you start blaming others for your conditions or loss. It can act as a facilitator to vent out the pent-up emotions and thoughts you suppressed for so long. You might feel better by transferring the negative energy that you have within yourself onto someone else. You might end up referring to their exes, or their new partners, and can also find yourself name-calling them.
There are times when people in this stage make themselves the main reason for their apocalyptic condition. In other scenarios, it is common to blame family members, friends, colleagues, their children, or even strangers.
Although in reality, the onus of falling apart is not on one person, it is okay to feel the same. Blaming is part of the process on your road to recovery or coping up. The anger that is pent up after your divorce within yourself gets to come out. Otherwise, it can have a detrimental effect on you, and you may even lash out at your children.
You can contact a good divorce counselor or relationship psychic at this stage as they can help you get a grip on your anger or find better avenues to vent it out.
The stage of guilt starts when you start considering yourself to be the culprit for the prevailing conditions. You begin a journey down memory lane to recollect all the past mistakes that you made during your marriage. You might also start feeling a deep desire within yourself to change all of them and rectify your marriage.
You start honestly believing that you did not do enough to cope with the situations or work on your marriage.
So while the above stages are a part of your acceptance of the current situation that you are in, you generally tend to get depressed after it. Depression is a good sign as a progression towards a normal life, as long as you get the necessary help to overcome it. Acceptance comes only after you come to terms with your divorce and accept the fact that you can not have your past life back.
The process of divorce is painful, and a good guide or friend in the form of a divorce counselor can help you to cope with it.